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It Can All Get Better For You...Just As It Did For Me...

Even though I always hated conflict, ironically, after brief stints in teaching and journalism, I decided to go to law school.

Early on in my legal career, I geared up for the fights in court, and felt my stomach tighten and my face flush when I argued with an opponent.

I’d usually end up with a horrible headache. Pretty soon I realized the same thing happened when I fought with my boyfriend, or my mom, or my best friend.

Even when it wasn’t a fight, when we were just disagreeing, my body felt bad. I was torn between wanting to run away, or just give in to make things OK, or to WIN and to be right. (I’ve read about asking yourself if you want to be right, or you want to be happy. I always wanted both!)  

I hated feeling that way, and so, over the years, I’ve learned tools to help myself deal with conflict. They work. In all sorts of situations – business, love, family, life. I took mediation and conflict coaching trainings and discovered how many choices we have in dealing with difficult people and situations.

You don’t have to win or lose. You can be kind and strong at the same time. And sometimes you can get angry, furious even, and it’s not the end of the world.

I feel so much happier when I use these tools with the people in my life. I don’t get sick to my stomach thinking about a hard conversation, and I know I can choose how I handle things.

I’d like to help you get to the same place.

Sometimes that means sitting down with a group and discovering what’s really underlying the disagreement.

And other times, it’s learning how to handle yourself in the midst of intense emotions, even if the other people involved are yelling, or manipulating, or intimidating.

You can do this, and I can show you how.